The place you go when not in “flow,” the ultimate feminine vs masculine battle of the mind.

Spirit gave me an idea in a quick channeled session that has infiltrated my mind for the past few weeks. Now that I’m noticing this phenomenon, I’m seeing the way it works within me and the members of the Healed Collective.

Human beings have four “bodies:” the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. As we make our way up the list starting from the physical body, our energy gets lighter and vibrates a bit more highly. Please head over to Our Four Bodies to learn more, as this is an important concept in learning how to navigate all and remain in healthy balance.

When we’re in “flow,” we’re in the magical place when Spirit showers us with all of our manifested desires, synchronicities are everywhere, and we have no problem with our health, mentality is stable, and emotions are regulated. We are standing in our power, our purpose, and watching in wonder at the magic happening around and within us. Our hearts may pop at any second with the juicy nutrients “flowing” through. These are usually rare, yet delicious moments in life – and yes, we can certainly have more! Flow, manifestation, and wealth of all kinds are our birthright, you know.

The thing with flow is that the minute your mind notices this amazingness happening, it takes over and tries to instigate more flow, immediately taking you out of it. You flip from the divine feminine of acceptance of creation to the masculine of working for creation. The line is almost invisible, yet the two sides of the coin couldn’t be more opposed. It’s the ultimate mindbender and cosmic joke, right?

This is the space of the Never-Never. It’s of push and pull. It’s of struggle.
It’s of trying to force your way back into the magic of flow.

Let’s dive into this a bit deeper. Our mind tends to hijack our physicality, emotions, spiritual engagement, and even the mind itself. What does this mean?

When we have problems, our mind filters everything, sweeping us into the Never-Never:

• When we have emotional issues, our mind starts to work on them.
• When we have spiritual experiences or questions, our mind – you guessed it – grinds it to bits.
• And when we have true mental concerns, our mind goes to work taking us down rabbit holes, potentially into an absolute abyss.

Our mind can even come with a voice, constantly telling us we’re not enough: good enough, strong enough, smart enough, pretty enough, the list goes on and on. In fact, so many of the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual problems we have originated with an “enough” problem.  So how do we start to work around this?

Our neural networks are our mental habits. We’ve done these mental exercises for perhaps decades. We’re used to using the same language to persecute ourselves, judge ourselves against others, and wonder what we can do to finally be “enough” of something.  We received these things from:

• Our parents
• Teachings growing up (religion, school, etc.)
• Friends and acquaintances
• Society
• Social media
• Culture
• Current events
• Government
• Marketing
• So much more.

These outside pressures are all training us to think, believe, buy, and buy into certain things. I’ll be the first to tell you I’m an easy sell. I could be Elsa the ice queen and be sold 10 ice makers. The “enough” list works hard on me, and I am learning to be constantly aware of it. I’m learning to watch the hijacking and, honestly, be impressed with its efficient work on my mind. I’m also learning to smile and say no thank you to the hijacker and to things that don’t feel aligned to my highest good. This practice leaves the door closed to the Never-Never and Flow can ease right in. It’s easier said than done, however. The mind is an incredibly powerful thing, with a “mind” of its own so to speak!

What we can do to open to flow

1) Check in with yourself.

This has been of ultimate importance and difficulty for me. I was raised to be a “good girl” with a healthy dose of “be seen and not heard.” Entering and living in adulthood has seen me re-learning how to uphold my opinions and stand up for myself. It’s been a tough and wild ride, forgoing alignment and my highest good for what society expected me to do, then awakening and bouncing between alignment and societal expectations (never mind the constant habit of trying to make everyone around me comfortable and reduce contention and conflict in every way possible… hello empaths, do you resonate?) I became a master puppeteer of large groups, my spidey sense knowing exactly when and where feathers were being ruffled and able to smooth everything out.

When we begin to notice when things are not aligned, positive, or comfortable, we must take note. In a conversation, if you tend to immediately band-aid something or gloss over into a less contentious topic, just become aware of this action. At the end of the night, review conversations and your reactions. Anything dissonant, negative, or uncomfortable – why do you feel this way?

• Did you need to stand up for yourself?
• Explain deeper?
• Use different language or tone?
• Truly say NO?
• Sit back and let your conversation partner dig themselves into a hole?

When we gloss over or make things all comfortable again, we do a couple of things: 1) we lead the conversation into untruth and 2) we castrate the potential of learning, growth, cleaning out of old habits and behaviors, and the potential for FUN. In comfort, we have relaxation and quiet – which are healing in their own right. But too much time here becomes bland. Boring. Vanilla. Blah. In discomfort or conflict, we learn who the other people are; how they think, what previous wounds are speaking through them, and their likes and dislikes, and we get to learn and expand the conversation exponentially! It gets exciting! Opportunity explodes and so may the fun in your relationships!

On the other hand, the necessity to cull toxic folks, news avenues, businesses, social influencers or whole social platforms from your life may become quickly apparent – and that’s great too. If we’re constantly feeling conflict, a drop in our stomach, or an icky feeling with a certain person, group, influencer, religion or message, business or company, we can decide to remove them from our life. This immediately brings our ultimate self into more alignment, beauty, and divinity. When we let a natural “negative” conversation or idea run its course, we get truly aligned with our higher self and spirit much quicker. Begin noticing when you habitually side-step the discomfort of an unaligned moment. This is where your magic lies!

2) Check in with your higher self and/or guides.

This piece is a good way to start really understanding your personal values if your mind is all over the place, not knowing who to believe or where to place intentions. If you focus your thoughts, feelings, heart, third eye, or whatever tool you have on your “higher self,” you may just get some answers leaping forth that clarify your feelings. Do the same for your guides. Just ask your guides if something is in alignment with you, if something is for the good of all if something is in your best interest. You’ll likely get a ping back with an answer, or it may take a while. It’s all ok – time really doesn’t matter. However, learning what your true values are and how to stay in alignment with them is important.

3) Speak Up.

The second part is to begin recognizing that bit of unalignment at the moment. This may take some time and practice. I’m not the best at this yet, however, I’ve now surrounded myself only with people who will honor my feelings if I mention something is off.

The key is to remain in your feelings, your “spidey sense” during conversations, meditations, really all the time. Begin picking up on them while they’re happening, and speak up! If your conversation partner is open to it, an easy way to do this in conversation is to politely ask “Why?” This dives the conversation a level deeper, and also gives you time to understand the reason you are feeling a little contentious so you can speak up in your full power.

Note that you can always bring something up later if it doesn’t occur to you in the moment. If you feel like you must revisit something in order to clear your conscious or really let another person or a whole group know where you stand, you’ll be better for it. A decade ago I lost a job over doing just this (and made a good old-fashioned, high-powered enemy in that industry), yet it was a good move. It was meant to happen, helped me cut my teeth, and made me who I am today.

Also note, if you’re experiencing these things within comments online and trolls are triggering you, don’t speak up; just X out. Leave. And it may be wise to unfollow someone who is manifesting so much negativity, or just quit looking at comments and stay in the meaning of the post itself. The world of online comments is a potentially very dark place that will burn out anyone’s light if unprepared.

4) Notice when you’re in the Never-Never.

When you notice you’re there all of a sudden, give yourself a smile. Laugh with the energy and your beautiful mind working so hard for you. Flow with the Never-Never. Have fun with it! Once you make it an enjoyable game, you can step into the flow much more easily. Incorporating it into your flow (in a sense) will change your neural pathways very quickly, as your 4 bodies will benefit from the positive energy you’re placing on something that was once so frustrating. Your mind habits will change quickly from this point.

5) Trust.

We can ultimately side-swipe the mental filter by just simply trusting in Spirit. Having the faith that you’re in the right place, at the right time for the lessons you’re supposed to experience, to live out the life you chose, to learn how to make decisions and take responsibility in alignment for yourself only… that’s the healing coming from true spiritual transformation, and you can choose it whenever you wish!

We are surrounded by messages from Spirit, our Higher Selves and Source all day long, every day. When we are in flow, we can easily recognize them, communicate with them, and put them to use. Begin checking in with the Never-Never. It’s one of the ultimate tools you possess, and working with it – changing your neural pathway habits – will make flow so much easier and more accessible. If you want to explore this further with a community of like-minded and like-hearted spiritual family, please join us in the Healed Collective – where you will recieve weekly energy healings plus built-in integration and spiritual coaching.