Have you ever wondered why certain memories evoke strong emotions while others fade quietly into the background? It’s not just the passage of time that dictates the strength of our recollections, but the spiritual and emotional meanings we attach to them. In this blog post, I’ll continue from Part 1 where we discuss how memories and our map of the world come together to build a false representation of reality, and some very good ways to begin re-telling the story. In this post, we’ll head a bit more into the spiritual aspects of memory and how to pull it all together.

“The stories we tell ourselves shape our reality. Reframe your story, and you change your world.”

By delving into this intricate connection between spirituality, emotions, and the stories we tell ourselves, we can begin to reframe our past experiences through the lens of our true essence and inherent love. In this journey, we discover the incredible power we hold—the free will to choose our narratives and transform our lives. 

Our Stories

We tend to tell stories to ourselves about our past. Usually the stories we dwell on are from past traumas, pains, and mental or emotional hurts. If we don’t capture these stories withour conscious mind, they can wreak havoc in our subconscious and affect everything from decisions we make to our relationship with ourselves and everyone else, and put a damper on how joyful and exciting our futures can be. These stories begin to own us, shaping our thoughts and decisions, bring fate into our future instead of destiny.

If you haven’t read part 1 of this blog duo, head over there now. You’ll find background on what stories are and many other ways to support yourself through the process of retelling and re-narrating your personal tales.

Otherwise, let’s dip into a bit of my perspective after studying spirituality, living as much of a non-storied life as I can. Becoming aware of stories and putting your time into unraveling them, giving them as little potency as possible, is a practice that has it’s switch flipped “on” at all times in my life. Here are the puzzle pieces I’ve put together on this subject so far. Please write in the comments if you have more to add… this certainly is a delightful topic!

Tying Spirituality to our Emotions

Emotions are energy, just like everything else. They’re tied to our thoughts; thoughts mirror emotions, and emotions mirror thoughts. Hormones are produced, then sensations flood the body, and we’re swimming in a pool of never-ending emotion. The stories your mind tells you on repeat will hold your attention, then you have more thoughts around it, and then the emotions follow. This is a cycle that you (and only you) have the power to break. Let’s study this from the building blocks of both our physical body and emotions and the energy of the truth of our purest energy.

Central Nervous System

In a spiritual sense, our central nervous system supplies us with emotions. It’s a purely human experience and one that we should be very grateful to have – it’s one of the reasons souls want to have a human incarnation so much, and so few of us get to experience. We won’t have them anymore once we pass out of the body.

We Are Love

Have you ever heard someone’s experience of having a near death experience (NDE)? Virtually all of them have the same talking point – when they were in this next realm, all they felt was pure love. It was the only thing in existence. They were pure love in an abyss of pure love. So, it lends authority to the fact that, even in our human bodies, we are still energetically pure love – joy, ecstasy, delight, elation.

Take another example: Jesus. He was a soul of pure love, brought to us to show us that we can manifest miracles just as he does, if we embody and act with pure love, denying all fear. We can’t have two masters, so we either choose love or fear. If we hold on to any fear at all, we’re holding two masters, which is an impossibility. Once we are pure love, we can make miracles happen.

Free Will

Humans also have the ability to choose everything in our lives. We have unconditional free will, allowing us to make decisions about how we conduct ourselves, how we treat ourselves and each other, and what we decide to nourish ourselves with – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Putting It All Together

If we are pure love and have free will, then our emotional scale is a thermostat of how close we are to our pure essence of this joy, ecstasy, delight and elation.

Think of your emotions on the emotional scale. The lower vibration ones at the bottom and love is at the tip top. If you’re not close to the top, you can sense how mis-aligned you currently are with your Truth.

If we’re far away from love, we can accept that we’re separating ourselves from it. The distance of the separation, the more painful the emotions you’ll experience. The emotions get more uncomfortable and unpleasant as we identify more and more with certain stories.

In other words, you feel uncomfortable because you’ve been feeding yourself some distortion of God’s/Source’s/My Higher Self’s Truth, and it’s your job (the spiritual journey) to return back to your Truth: your love for self. At this point, you must also separate yourself from others watching your journey; if they disagree with your choices as you return to Love, let that go. It isn’t your business. Their thoughts and feelings about our decisions are irrelevant to your life and the direction you want to flow.

What Stories Are You Feeding?

When we keep reliving and retelling stories, we are feeding and building up falsehoods, lies that take us farther from our Truth. The more we re-tell these to ourselves, the more nourishment we give them. Training yourself to notice when you’re telling an unnecessary and untrue story means you’ll be working through some wounds and coping mechanisms you’ve picked up along your human existence that are keeping you in the pattern of the story. You simply need to change your habit of what you do with this story, and choose to feed something else instead.

Let’s take for example, anger. Perhaps you feel like you’ve been disrespected, not heard, not seen, you get road rage, or you’re around people who simply go through life differently than you do, irritating you completely and you flood with anger. When this happens, it’s important to see the anger (or other “lower” emotion) as separate from you, yet it’s an incredible ally. It’s a red flag you’ll notice from here on out, letting you know it’s time to stop the story and dig a bit deeper into the reasons behind it, ultimately healing the real trigger behind the emotion.

Ask yourself, “How am I nourishing this anger?” “What is the thought behind the anger?” “How am I feeding this story of being angry?” Your thoughts are literally feeding this low emotion, so what in the world are they?

Once you pinpoint your thoughts that are stoking the fire under anger, then you can sink into where you feel this emotion in your body. Pinpoint this as well.

Then, ask this anger what else it has to say. Perhaps it’s protecting you because the trigger of the anger means you’re not good enough or worthy enough, and your higher self secretly knows better. Spend some time with this so you can truly know what the message is from your Higher Self.

The anger and trigger will likely lie in ego, pride, or protection, and when we go deeper, the root of all is fear. But fear of what? Journaling and meditation on this are some of the best ways to unveil this information. My favorite has always been jumping in the car for a 1-2 hour ride, by myself, phone on silent, and in complete silence. Nothing else can come about except for your subconscious thoughts rising to the surface and giving you mind-blowing answers.

Notice when you’re leading yourself astray

When you allow your stories to own you, they will always lead you away from love. Whether it’s a story of victimhood, grief, or even accomplishment, you’re letting this thing lead you on a leash away from your Truth of Love.  The further away it leads you, the anger, hurt, resentment, and fear will still be there waiting for you.

How to pull yourself out of your story

1) Becoming Present & Aware

The first thing we must do when pulling out of this cycle is to become aware of the emotion you’re feeling. This may take time since we’ve never been taught to do this, and it requires watching ourselves dutifully to catch these sometimes slippery emotions. If we’re sitting and stewing in our lower emotions, that means we’re in our emotions. We’re not present at all. We’re stuck in a story that is building energy and sinking us down further each time we dwell upon it.

2) Perspective: the answer to everything

Almost 80% of the channeled healings I receive for clients are cases of how to change a perspective, or mindset, around a problem or condition they have. It’s an immediate change to the neurotransmitters holding onto a story, and allows the client to see how many wonderful opportunities actually exist around it.

In the case of our storyline, after we pinpoint what emotion we’re feeding and we know we’re allowing this story to hook that leash to our collar, we can ask more simple questions:

• Is this what Source/God/All That Is, or my higher self believes?
• What is God’s/Source’s perspective on this issue?
• Is this story or belief of mine true? Is it true in all respects and regards, forever and ever?
• Is this a distortion leading me away from love? Or, is this leading me closer to my Truth?
• Simply put, what does your Higher Self know to be true?

So we take this mindset back to the ego, pride, protection, and root fear of the emotion you’re working through and apply it. If the cause was the feeling that you aren’t respected, how does your Higher Self feel about this? Are you respecting yourself? Because that’s all that matters. What someone else thinks about you is their business, not yours – at all. What they think or say about you never, ever matters – unless you begin telling a story that it does. Then, the story will bloom into thoughts that expand into anger, and it all starts again. So what’s the solution? Settling into self-respect, knowing you’re responsible for feeling respect for yourself and you’re the only one that truly matters. 

3) Begin Feeding Your New Story

You know when to begin feeding and nourishing your new story when it feels goooooood. When you know it’s aligned with your Purpose, your self-love, and it supports your worth, your confidence, and uplifts you. If you have a story that is nagging at you, continue to interrupt it with your new story. It’s like a CD (remember those?!?) that plays an old song you don’t want to hear anymore. Imagine whenever that song plays, you scratch that CD until it can’t play. Do this over and over, each time playing your new song, and ultimately that old CD will be trash and nevermore enter your personal reality.

Spiritual Bypassing

So, is this spiritual bypassing? 

Spiritual bypassing is the tendency to use spiritual explanations or practices to avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks. It involves an escapist attitude, whereby spiritual ideas or practices are used to evade discomfort rather than address and heal from core issues. This can hinder genuine emotional and spiritual growth by masking reality with seemingly comforting beliefs.

The answer, simply put, is no. What we’re doing is putting a bookmark, asterisk, or north star on your emotional (vibratory) scale where you are closest to Truth, using that to note where you are at any moment, and then using tools to unravel and heal the distortion you’re telling yourself.

This work effectively transmutes your energy by noticing how far you are away from the Truth, healing the root of the issue, and rising above its energy to that of Truth, even if you’re stuck in the middle of traffic or a terrible work situation that would have otherwise triggered that anger response.

Resiliency Through Personal Power and Self Love

I used to think of resiliency as being able to bounce back from life events as I was being ricocheted through the tribulations of 2020 and beyond. As I’ve stepped out of the survival mode of that time period, I recognize it’s something a bit deeper than that. Spiritual resilience is being truly OK during these trying times, not just being able to bounce back. It’s about remaining in flow, even when the flow seems against you. 

Everyone can pull through tough phases, but it takes an enormous amount of personal power and self-love to recognize oneself, our talents and skills, and live our Truth during these times. Deep self-love and faith in Source/Great Spirit/God give us ease in life, knowing where our north star is, and recognizing that tough times are only the manifestation of future wisdom are the keys to relaxing into the flow, even if it’s the flow of a tornado.

The Best Bet: Join a Community to Help You On Your Journey!

I invite you to join our like-minded, like-hearted group on spiritual journeys. In Beyond, we meet weekly for an energy alignment and balancing healing and get massive channeled integrations from your highest guides to help you on your way, in all areas of life. Inside the group, you’ll also find a library of resources at your fingertips, including a growing list of meditations and courses in spirituality and healing. I can’t wait to see you there!